we aren’t taking care of each other

What in the hell is going on here? Why are police officers killing black people? Why can they not stop doing that?

I don’t want to hear that I don’t know the whole story or that I don’t know what it’s like to be in a cop’s shoes. I can be both a supporter of police officers and a supporter of people not getting killed. I don’t have to know the slain person’s criminal history to know that getting killed is not a reasonable outcome of being pulled over or of talking to a cop in a parking lot. That’s not the way it’s supposed to work.

The other thing I don’t want to hear? “Oh, I don’t want to get political so I don’t want to say anything.” BULLSHIT. Human lives are not politics. If you ignore the problem, the problem will not be solved. And the thing about this problem that some people need to know is that it is a stark reminder that we aren’t doing what we are supposed to. We aren’t taking care of each other.

Are you confused about what you are supposed to say about race? Are you uncomfortable around people whose skin is different that yours? That’s not a crime. You are probably not alone. But if you never give those thoughts and feelings air to breath, you stay scared and uncomfortable and confused. And black families continue to worry about the safety of their loved ones.

And it does matter what you think and feel and say, even if you aren’t a police officer. We are all on this planet together and none of us are getting out alive, but that doesn’t mean we should kill each other. And over what? Skin color? Prejudice? We should all be embarrassed and ashamed that this is happening in our country.

This doesn’t mean you ignore skin color; color blindness is neither helpful nor realistic. See the differences in others and try to understand their struggles — and look for the ways you are alike.

Maybe you see me in the grocery store and you think, “Hey, she’s just a middle-aged, white, suburban mom with two kids and an SUV just like me.” But am I? Did you also grow up in small town? Were you poor, too? Did you have cancer when you were 15? Did you earn scholarships and do work study to pay for your entire college education on your own? OH, you mean you can’t tell all that by looking at me? 

Imagine that.

We should be taking care of each other, not taking sides.

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