No, really. I’m asking for a friend: How do you take care of you?
Do you have something special that you do just for yourself? Where do you find the time? I think most of us know what we should do to take care of ourselves but the real struggle is finding the time to fit it all in. At least I think that is how it is for me.
One of the things I do for me is write this blog and I’ve talked about how it’s helped me discover this is an area of my life I want to focus on. On the super popular blog Kelly’s Korner, she is hosting a link up on this very subject. I felt compelled to explore it even further because I’ve been exploring it in my head forEVER.
THE AGE OF BUSY-NESS
At this point in my life I almost feel like it’s a foolish goal to have “me” time. There are so many things we are responsible for as mothers, as parents. Are we supposed to cut something out or pile more on? Are we failing if we aren’t taking care of ourselves? It kind of sounds like the answer should be yes, but when you have young children and no family around to share some of the craziness, where do you find that “other” time? Everyone is critical of the over scheduling of children these days, but what about the over scheduling of parents? When did life become so complicated?
The whole idea of “me” time seems selfish to me. Yet I desperately need to have quiet downtime in order to recharge myself and be a better wife and mother — a better me. So what is the answer?
WHEN DELEGATING WON’T WORK
In an office environment, if you are struggling to get everything done you would be sent to a time-management class. In that class you would be advised to minimize your interruptions and delegate work to others when appropriate.
What if you are self employed and work from home — while your children are there? Is there a class for that? Even if there was, how would you go if you are the primary caregiver for the kiddos?
As tempting as it is, I’m pretty sure it’s frowned upon to lock yourself in your home office when you are the one responsible for taking care of your children…
THERE IS AN ANSWER
This can’t be a new problem. Children have always been children and moms have always had things they’ve needed to accomplish. I think what is different about the issue today is that our lives aren’t as compartmentalized as they once were. You can work from your house, your car, the coffee shop. You can stop in the middle of composing an email (or a blog post) to wipe a nose or take your toddler to the potty. Multitasking has become the way to live.
Doing one thing at a time just doesn’t exist anymore. So maybe “me” time doesn’t either.
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Do you share my foolish dream of time to take care of yourself? Or have you found a way to do it, even with young children? Please share your ideas, solutions, or problems in the comments. Be part of my village.